Music Review: “Lose You To Love Me” by Selena Gomez

By Celia Balderston

On Oct. 28, Selena Gomez’s new hit single, “To Lose You to Love Me,” hit the charts. The first day this melancholic pop-song was released, it sat respectably at #15 on Billboard’s Top 100 songs list. During this past week, the song reached Billboard’s top spot at #1, making it Gomez’s first time at the billboard top 100 list. Selena Gomez is no stranger to songwriting. For the past 10 years, Gomez has been co-writing and producing albums, music videos, and singles. Before her solo career, Selena Gomez was the lead singer of the music group “Selena Gomez and the Scene”. In this music group, Gomez co-released 3 albums along with many singles.

Before her music career, Gomez first appeared in media through the children’s show “Barney and Friends”. After playing smaller roles, she starred in the Disney Channel Original television show “Wizards of Waverly Place”, where she made many hit singles and starred in other television shows and Disney Channel movies. Since she left being an actress on Disney Channel, Gomez started to pour her and soul into writing music, which brings us to now.

One of Selena Gomez’s newest singles, “To Lose You to Love Me”, is a teaser song for her third studio album, which is anticipated to come out later this year. This new song is possibly about Gomez’s tumultuous relationship with long-time on-and-off ex-boyfriend Justin Bieber. According to Gomez, the song was “inspired by many things that have happened in [her] life since releasing [her last album]”. Her intention for writing this song is for “people to feel hope and to know [that in tough situations, specifically break-ups, her listeners] will come out the other side stronger and a better version of [themselves]” (

In this single about self-discovery, Selena Gomez paints a picture that many know all too well: what it feels like to fall “head-over-heels” in love with someone who you are not meant to be with. She talks about how captivating and gripping being in love is. The song, which has melancholic undertones, quickly turns and talks about betrayal from her former partner. Gomez portrays how many people in unhealthy relationships deny any issues that happen and continue on as if everything is fine. As Gomez describes, “you [need] to go into [love] blindly” and that may hurt you, after describing what an unhealthy and painful relationship feels like, she takes the bridge of the song to transition into how she (like many other people) ended the toxic relationship she was in so she could learn to love herself and explore who she is after the relationship ended. The song then describes how she tried her best to muddle through a rough situation, but the struggle made her a stronger person.

This song is a triumphant ring in the topic of self-care and self-love. In interviews about the song, Gomez touches base on the dangerous and toxic world of self-love. Many people struggle with how they view themselves; this song is for those who have been hurt but have ultimately grown from that pain. Even if you do not enjoy Selena Gomez’s music, this blunt and truth-filled song is sure to strike a chord with anyone who listens to it. If you have time, sit down and listen. Good self-care is the root of joy and happiness and this song paints a great picture as to what sort of mistakes many make when it comes to interacting with others.

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Celia is a staff writer for The Lorian.

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